It never ceases to amaze me how some people will settle for nearly anything they can get. Especially when it comes to love and money, two of the most important aspects of life. I, as much as anyone else, have had my share of lean times when it comes to both, love and money.
I believe that there is a period, in the developmental phase of life; when you haven’t quite put your finger on who you are and why you are here, where judgement and reasoning is clouded by desire and insecurity.
During this period, it is understandable that one would settle for a dead-end job, and less that fulfilling relationships. I also believe that this phase is a part of growth and at some point, one should transcend it. You know, grow up and expand. At some point, everyone should begin to recognize their own power.
I honestly, believe that there is an almost tangible shift that occurs in a properly oriented individual. It is a shift that takes one from the path of “life by default” to “life by design”. I say that this shift occurs in properly oriented individuals because, I believe that there are those among us that have remained in suspended animation of the developmental phase so long that any kind of positive growth and development is beyond their willingness to accomplish.
It is not that they are incapable of change, anyone who has the desire to do so can change their lives at will. I simply believe that some people have stagnated so long that unless some drastic event intervened in their lives, they are incapable of generating the desire require to make the necessary changes.
There are those who will forfeit their greatness for a life of mediocrity because they can not bear the weight of self-responsibility. These are the ones who will stay on a job they hate for years of their lives, and disregard every opportunity that the meet as a scam, simply because it is easier to blame their fact that their lives suck on the job.
Everyone know that when you break away from the pseudo-security of the job, you are responsible for yourself. Freedom has never been free. It requires one to stretch, to grow, to fail, and to think. It requires one to become more than what they are. This most likely will lead to disapproval, something that many people simply cannot tolerate.
There are those who will bend over backward to stay in a relationship that stands between them and their power, simply because it is better than being alone. I have heard, my idol, Les Brown, ask “Are you living together or are you dying together?” I do believe I would rather be living alone than dying with anyone. It has never taken me long to know if a relationship was good or bad for me.
There was a time when it took me a long time to do something about it. There was a time when I would sit around hoping for the miracle that would change a man, so that he would realize the treasure he had in me. That was a long time ago. Life has taught me that I can love anyone from a distance.
There are situations where this is necessary. Because no matter how you slice it relationships affect finances. And well, finance is my life. I am The Money Metaphysician, after all. I earn my living teaching about money, writing about money, helping some people heal their relationships with money, and helping others make money. Anything that gets between myself and my money must go and anything that insults my soul also must go.
There is nothing to discuss, there is nothing to consider, there is nothing to think about. I am always the one who has the final say about what I will and will and will not tolerate in my life. I know that anytime I am walking with another, either I must adjust to their pace or they must adjust to mine. I am on my way somewhere. I am on a deadline. Anyone who cannot go where I am going cannot walk with me. Anyone that slows me down or hold me back cannot walk with me.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is let go. A closed hand will not let anything out. It also will not let anything in. But what if letting go made room for the unfolding of your magnificence. What if your greatness was on the other side of that heartbreak or that pink slip? What would you be if you were free to choose YOU?
What if you put yourself first, for once in your life? What if you took the time to learn more about the next opportunity that came your way instead of dismissing it? What if told that man or woman who is sucking up your time and energy to clear the runway so that you can take off. What would happen if YOU WERE THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN YOUR LIFE? The truth is you are your greatest asset. Take care of you.
Peace, Power, and Prosperity